Points in our lives

At what point in our lives does a action become a dictation of our character?  When does a "night out with the girls" turn you into an irresponsible drunkard?  How can a relationship with someone for you the title of "cougar"?  Why does it all have to come with labels?  Why can't we be who we are and be appreciated for that?!?

I have recently made a choice in my personal life to become physically involved with a friend.  This friend is quite a bit younger than me but our intellectual and mental levels are similar.  We are great friends and we click well physically, most of the time.  Why should it matter we are almost a decade apart?  That doesn't change our chemistry.  It doesn't dictate what topics we discuss or how well we work together.  It just works.  Why is it I almost feel shamed when people bring up our age difference?!?

Since when do I care what anyone else thinks, first and foremost?  And what kind of a person am I that I let people, who are completely inconsequential to my life, have any judgement or even comment about my relationships?!?  I am an adult.  I don't need some stupid radio personality calling me foul names like "cradle robber" or "cougar"!  I don't need to feel shamed that I've found someone who is in the exact same place I am (mentally and emotionally) and we get along great!  The fact we tolerate each other is a testament alone.  But we actually get along well and learn from each other daily.  What's wrong with that?!?  I am an old soul, I always have been.  It's nice to finally get to feel young and free for once in my life. I don't think I should be condemned for that.  I'm not hurting anyone.  We aren't breaking any laws.  And there is no grounds for moral ambiguity. So what's the big friggin deal?!?

I wish, more often than not, that people would just STEP OFF!